FEAR...Foe Or Friend?

“Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood. Now is the time to understand more, so that we may fear less.” - Marie Curie

For many of us, fear can be a crippling feeling that prevents us from showing our true selves. It happens to the best of us, moments where we stay silent when we have something to say that should add value to a discussion or scenario, applying for the role we've always wanted but having that overwhelming sense of questioning if we are 'good enough' ? I guess you can relate this back to self confidence but the initial igniter would be fear, the fear of not being true to yourself. Fear is not only a feeling but also a methodology used by massive corporations in order to manipulate us into buying the latest product or the newest car etc. This is something we have all been guilty of, a prime example would be the I-Phone, as soon as the new one comes out we immediately see our current phone as obsolete & have this sudden urge to go out and buy the latest gadget. It is that fear tactic within marketing that large businesses know we as everyday people will fall for.

Back to you and your understanding of your personal fear, each day we are all faced with tasks, questions & situations that we either face or push to the back of our mind or even worse we hide from. I don't care how big or successful you are, this is a normal human emotion & within this emotion we unknowingly use our fight or flight response. How many times have you had this feeling? Can you go back and question why you didn't make the move or stand up for yourself? There are many of us that are happy to stay in our lane, get told what to do on a daily basis & go home, forget the world and repeat the same the next day, however I know if you read this blog you'll have some aspirations and a duty of self care both physical and logical. I find myself to be an opinionated person however there was a time where I would hide behind a persona, not stick up for myself and be the prime example of someone staying in their lane. COVID took me out of my comfort zone, I was faced with challenges & decisions that would either make or break my progression. Throughout this time I gained the confidence to stand up for myself, the fear of rejection, self doubt & confrontation disappeared. I knew now I could get through the lowest points and bounce back. My ideology and view point on life was that if I don't face the fear of change then I will simply be stuck in a circle of regret and who knows where that may have ended up.

My advice to you is that if you see yourself or can relate to anything I have said then write a list of your fears ( I don't mean spiders or ghosts etc) but the fears that you know if faced your life will hopefully start taking a move in the right direction. A lot of us are fearful of the unknown or taking the risk & thats fine, but would you be happy knowing 10 years down the line your life could be where you wanted it to be or you will still be in that circle chasing what could've been. Apply this to any aspect of your day to day and start treating fear as a friend or it will be forever your FOE & your greatest downfall.

Tierneys Top Tips

"Fear is an overwhelming and strong emotion, like anything you have to learn to control it. Take a breath and face it head on, no matter what the situation, understand and believe in yourself to beat that feeling of staying complacent. Without fear we will never truly understand ourselves as individuals, great accomplishments are made out of our darkest fears, so what will yours be?"

Thanks

T.