The Rule Of 3... Control, Power & Perception

"You may think that the world is against you, that your back is against the wall & you have no where to go or turn to. There will always be someone, somewhere going through a worse situation than what you are currently facing. This does not mean your issues are not important and that your problems are not as crucial to deal with, what it does mean is that what you are worrying about today in a wider picture may not be as big as it seems, it's how the rule of 3 works of both sides that will help you gain a greater understanding of this" - Me

Control, Power & Perception... 3 things we as humans fight to have in our lives and crave in this modern world. On a daily occurrence you are exposed to these, wether this being through social platforms, on the news or even in the paper, if you are seen to be missing one of the 3 as an individual and as a viewer then where does this leave you?

Control

'The power to influence or direct people's behaviour or the course of events.'

Like it or not control is something that is all around us, through laws, workplace, daily activities. Control on huge scale can be added to a number of things and the list will probably bore you to death so I wont waste your time. We have been brought up to 'not loose control' & that we should always be in control of what we are doing. As we know this is not always the case, there are times throughout our lives where control is no longer in our power, we sometimes loose all sense of control and end up spiralling into a deeper hole than we first imagined. As humans daily life can and will test you & your will to give up control and make you feel as if you are a passenger & not the one in the driving seat will happen. Above I have quoted the definition of 'Control', now some of you may read this and instantly relate control to someone who is dominant, high up in the work chain & thats understandable as we have been taught to see people above us as those in control. For me this is where the issue lies, we let others seem as if they are the driving force, the ones at the steering wheel & ultimately this ends up us being the passenger. The main cause of blame for this is our outdated educational system the classic from a young age authority and control is always given to someone else "sit down, be quiet", "you need to do this class or course etc in order to get somewhere" "you will listen to me I'am the teacher you are the student" not to say that teachers are bad, because they are not. They too are simply following a set of rules under control of those above them and the same for them above them. In order to get where you want or be where you want to be you have to seize control of your life. Not only control in terms of external factors but also internally. I refer back to my first quote about others being worse off than you. If you have that sense or feeling that nothing is within your control then focus on what you can control. The number one thing that we all have control over is our emotions, yes for some this may be harder than others however both time and reflection will help you understand that you have that control, external factors may influence it and impact you however you are the one in the driving seat. Control your emotions and the other two rules will fall into place.

Power

"the ability or capacity to do something or act in a particular way."

Power can be seen in two ways in my eyes, in terms of strength both mentally and physically. We often hear the saying "oh they've gone power mad" or "The power has gone to their head" how we choose to view power both internally and externally on others is down to how we control our perception on others & ourselves (one of the many links between all 3) Power grows in us over time and if used correctly the laws of power can lead you in a direction of success but can always turn out the wrong way if used incorrectly. Use it strategically and watch peoples perception of you change. I've always said those who are quiet and sit back saying nothing have the most power in a conversation, they are waiting for something to come to them, being spoken too almost as if others are looking for your approval. Power is not always through an example of external strength like lifting a heavy weight or running the fastest lap, power can be found within moments of still and quiet and this is where you truly understand the power you have. Have an understanding of your power both mentally and physically, push yourself and dig deeper to truly show your full potential & find your way of displaying power & see how your perception on yourself changes but also peoples perception of you. Take control of your power.

Perception

"the way in which something is regarded, understood, or interpreted"

Perception can be confused with judgement, how we perceive others and how they perceive us can be lost in translation. Perception can't always be controlled by us individually however this doesn't prevent us from having the power to impact others perception on ourselves. The more control we have over our own ideology and perception on ourselves the easier it will be to take control and use our power to influence how others see us. Nowadays the number of mental health related issues is on the rise, in a world so connected we are disconnected on a grand scale, we have lost the means of conversation, we have lost the understanding that each and everyone of us is special. If you ask most people their perception on themselves the majority of them would start with something negative. We don't celebrate or cheer for ourselves anymore, unless this is on a social media post for the world to see and that non verbal re assurance is all we have left in the world. We need more self celebration, when was the last time you sat back and just went "fuck me i'm actually doing really well, better than where I was ex amount of time ago" Learn to celebrate you and gain that perception of knowing you are doing just fine, there are too many people at the moment trying to keep up or afraid of having the feeling of FOMO. Stay in your lane and gain a greater understanding of your own personal perception on yourself and see that once you know your worth and value it will translate and reflect into what others perceive you as. Remember shit attracts more shit, don't be shit...haha!

So next time you feel like the world has you against a wall remember that wall can always be dismantled or knocked down and you may fall deeper, however you have taken the first steps and given yourself breathing space.

Step One: Take Control

Step Two : Understand the Power of Power

Step Three: Perceive your own perception and others will quickly match yours.

"Some people want it to happen, some wish it would happen, others make it happen." – Michael Jordan.

Thanks

T.