If You Can't Be You Then How Will People Know You?

“About all you can do in life is be who you are. Some people will love you for you. Most will love you for what you can do for them, and some won't like you at all.” Rita Mae Brown

Its been a while and thats why I want to talk about being yourself and accepting your true self in understanding your own ability and commitments. Like everyone who has a fire inside of them to succeed I feel there is this over whelming need to perform 24/7. There is this invisible reward for constantly working hard (a feeling almost similar to that of eating chocolate and getting that dopamine kick) this is how I feel when I know I'm working hard at my business and enjoy it but having a week off has taught me that constantly working and constantly talking with yourself in establishing the foundations of your idea can ultimately have the opposite affect. Last week I found myself sat staring at this screen writing sentences that meant nothing and made no sense, I knew what I wanted to say but it just wouldn't go onto the page, writers block shall we say. However this was not a wasted opportunity this was a lesson in knowing I can't be the guy who works 24/7 7 days a week my brain and my body just doesn't allow me to, I think this is where most entrepreneurs might see themselves as a failure because this hard work get up and go attitude is constantly over shadowing their true self and that is someone who needs a break but can't accept it.

I have found in recent weeks a lot of time within my own head, I have come to the understanding that the longer I spend in there thinking and having conversations with myself about ideas and where to go to next (yes I sound crazy) but I noticed that over this time period of self conversation that I was slowly breaking down my ideas and overthinking rather than doing. I therefore determined that to much time within your own head can ultimately have the same effect as not doing anything at all or even worse. I think that it has become to easy to isolate ourselves and go into our own worlds and forget about that public connection, especially during this pandemic we have the majority of the time only connected through a blue screen in our pants on FT or Zoom which again is a sure fire way to forget who we really are, we as humans need that interaction and let our true characters show. I suppose my final thoughts on this are that we envision who we are and what we want to be perceived as in the public eye but do we really take the time to consider who we really are?

Once you figure this out your attitude, your goals, your persona will develop into the person you really are.

One last point on this as it just came to me whilst writing the previous paragraph, we live in a society where we idolise celebrities, influencers and so on... someone asked me the other day who I most respect and want to be like. I said the answer to that question is not as simple as you may think. Yes I could turn round and list of a handful of successful entrepreneurs, sports personality's etc etc and this view point may be seen as a pretentious one but I feel that the person I want to be like...is Me. Yes I have people I admire, look up to and seek for guidance and support however I want to be myself in the future I want my story, my climb to success and to be able to say to the world I'm just me. None of this oh I'll be the next Gary vee or Steve jobs...No, just Thomas. Since thinking like this I have found a stronger character within myself and someone who just does them.

Tierneys Top Tip- Do you know who you really are?

Thanks

T.