Why making sacrifices in your early years will help you in the future?

“We all can be masters at our craft, but you have to make a choice. What I mean by that is, there are inherent sacrifices that come along with that. Family time, hanging out with friends, being a great friend, being a great son, nephew, whatever the case may be. There are sacrifices that come along with making that decision.”- Kobe Bryant

Rewind 4 years ago, I would be the person organising the nights out getting everyone in the mood for the "sesh" I loved seeing people have a good time and stay out till all hours of the morning, don't get me wrong I enjoyed it and had fun but didn't realise that in this reality it was nothing but an escape from how unhappy and unproductive my life was. Working a dead end bar job and sticking out at Uni for the sake of it these nights out were the escape and peace I needed in order to maintain a level mind. Which when you think about it and say it to yourself is probably the most depressing and un-motivating thing I could say and experience. Fast forward to now and I'm completely the other end of the spectrum I don't organise nights out or go out of my way to talk to people who don't bother with me, a close friend to me once said "match the energy you receive" and since he said this it has always stuck in the back of my mind and now becomes a question when I do find myself wondering how people are who I use to hang around with and go out with and thought were close friends but time and distance apart have displayed their true colours. This lesson in understanding matching the energy you receive has prompt my natural mindset into questioning myself and making the sacrifice to not bother being the first person to text or organise stuff and with this sacrifice of being the organiser I have altered my energy into my work and treat work now as my time to stay up till all hours, working away on my own in my room with nothing but Lo-Fi music and a mood lamp... yes I'm that old.

Saying "No" is sometimes probably one of the most difficult things to do when in your mid 20's when you see everyone out drinking and having fun. I recently listened to a podcast by Steven Bartlett and he states that "You need to update your library" thinking about this I was slightly confused until he explained that our library and main source of information is our newsfeeds via social media, we spend so much time scrolling, double tapping and so on but all of this information does it resemble our outcome and goals. In my opinion you can sort of see your newsfeed as binge watching shit TV, you sort of stare at it and don't take much notice but you understand what is going on. So from this last night I unfollowed about 300 people who I either don't talk or care for what they post. Yes this may seem shitty but you have to take control and make sacrifices of tools that you use on a daily basis and allow them to be used productively and efficiently. Since doing this my newsfeed has been updated and most shown in feed now are people who I inspire to be like and people who post relevant information that I can adapt and use in my everyday life. Honestly you should try it.

Tierneys Top Tip- Make the sacrifices now before you become trapped and caught up in the everyday, do you really need to go out all the time or is there something you've always wanted to do or try and put your efforts and money into that.

Thanks

T